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I have been contemplating writing this for a while…
Chad and I have been married for over two years now.
2 whole years of growth, change, hardships & laughter.
Since our wedding day, August 10, 2013…we have been bombarded with questions about “when we’ll have kids?”
“Are you ever going to have kids?” “Our kids need a friend.” “Are you guys even trying?” “Why are you waiting?” “We’re having another baby, now it’s your turn.” “Not having a drink…You’re pregnant!”
On behalf of us and many other childless (married) people…
How about… in the nicest way possible…STOOOOOP.
When you asked the first ten times… it may have been cute or even endearing…but now it’s awkward and makes me want to rip my hair out.
There are a bajillion reasons why people choose to have kids right away & a bajillion more reasons why people WAIT to have kids…and frankly it’s not a competition, nor anyone’s business but our own.
For us it will happen when it happens.
When the time is right.
We wanted to:
-Own our own farm.
-Have good jobs.
-& JUST BE MARRIED.
Wanting to get to know your partner before rushing into having children is OKAY.
I feel as though before the next time the words “when are you having kids?” is about to leave your lips…you should consider…economic issues,financial issues, health issues, relationship issues, the fact that maybe the couple isn’t ready or doesn’t even want kids!
You should also consider the fact that maybe “these” people have been pregnant and lost… and now every time you ask those words, you may as well be ripping their hair out for them.
Those little words hurt… they hurt to people who have been “trying.”
Sincerely, Your “Childless” Friend.